2 Samuel 13: Ammons Incest with Tamar

Introduction: 2 Samuel 13 provides a narrative that is heartbreaking and tragic, highlighting the consequences of sin and injustice that are prevalent in human society. The story unfolds around Amnon, Tamar, and Absalom, the children of King David. It underscores the theme of misuse of power, betrayal, and vengeance. The chapter ends with Absalom’s retaliatory murder of Amnon and his subsequent flight. The chapter offers rich insights into the dynamics of power, abuse, family, justice, and retribution.

I. 2 Samuel 13:1-2: Amnon’s Unrighteous Desire:
In these verses, Amnon, David’s eldest son, is smitten by his half-sister Tamar’s beauty, leading him to fall sick. His desire was sinful, violating God’s law against incest (Leviticus 18:9) and demonstrating the corruption of human desire (James 1:14-15). This incident illustrates the detrimental effects of lust, a theme evident throughout the Bible (Matthew 5:28).

II. 2 Samuel 13:3-14: The Sinful Act
Amnon, advised by his cunning friend Jonadab, deceptively lures Tamar into his quarters and rapes her. Despite Tamar’s pleas and her reminder of the disgrace it would bring (Deuteronomy 22:21), Amnon doesn’t relent. This event showcases the misuse of power and the dire consequences of being led astray by ungodly counsel (Psalm 1:1).

III. 2 Samuel 13:15-19: The Aftermath of Ammon’s Sin
Post the act, Amnon’s love turns into hate, leading him to further humiliate Tamar by sending her away. This shift in Amnon’s emotions aligns with Proverbs 14:12 that warns against the deceptive nature of sin. Tamar’s reaction – tearing her robe, putting ashes on her head – signifies her absolute grief and humiliation (Job 2:12).

IV. 2 Samuel 13:20-22: David’s Inadequate Response
David, on hearing about Tamar’s violation, becomes angry but doesn’t punish Amnon. It mirrors David’s own sin with Bathsheba and his failure to address it adequately (2 Samuel 11-12). This lack of justice leads to bitterness and desire for revenge in Absalom’s heart, fulfilling the warning in Ezekiel 18:20.

V. 2 Samuel 13:23-29: Absalom’s Retribution
Two years later, Absalom avenges Tamar by killing Amnon. The severity of Absalom’s action reflects the Old Testament’s principle of ‘an eye for an eye’ (Exodus 21:24), but also highlights the danger of acting as one’s judge and executioner (Romans 12:19).

VI. 2 Samuel 13:30-39: The Consequences of Revenge
News of Absalom’s act shocks David, leading him to believe all his sons are killed. Later, when he learns it was only Amnon, David grieves. Absalom flees, becoming a fugitive. This illustrates the far-reaching consequences of sin and vengeance (Proverbs 13:15), emphasizing God’s call for forgiveness (Matthew 6:14-15).

Conclusion: 2 Samuel 13 offers  insights into the dire consequences of sinful desire, misuse of power, and unchecked revenge. It serves as a reminder of the importance of godly counsel, the necessity of appropriate justice, and the detrimental effects of acting on sinful desires. This chapter, though filled with sadness and violence, serves as an important lesson on the consequences of sin and the importance of justice and forgiveness in the face of wrongdoing.